There's a few different things gong on here we need to discuss and flesh out. I'll discuss shocks last.
Firstly, in real terms, with the car fuelled, packed and with driver (and passenger?), it's likely at or over GVM, so ~1300kg. A sierra is generally considered to have 450kg of payload, but payload is a slippery term as it's based on a dry weight which no car can achieve. Best to compare what your car actually weighs to GVM which is either ~1350 or 1410kg. Regardless, my point is your car is basically fully laden at all times.
The sag in the rear end has nothing to do with shocks, that's 100% the spring. Shocks have no effect on ride height (they do in extreme cases but that's not what we're discussing here)
Death wobble is it's own thing and it's 100% steering. If you have experienced death wobble you'll know, it's not "rocking from side to side"- the front wheels will leave the road surface at 40km/h+ in time with wheel speed. It's incredibly violent and you genuinely feel like you're going to die. There may be issues with you shocks, but also bushes, shackle wear (this is common), loose U bolts - there's lots of other issues that can induce "loosenes" in the suspension. Also, if you have draws and a fridge, you'll have a fairly high rear centre of gravity which won't be helping.
I need to ask some questions about the rest of the car and use.
What size tyre?
Does the tyre size you want to run require a bump stop spacer in the front?
What's the motivation for RUF? Do you have experience with suspension and chassis fabrication/welding? Lots of RUF conversions don't work very well and they are harder to get right than people make out.
It sounds like you don't want to move the axle forward, and I'm sort of picking up you want to retain stock shock towers/mounts. This is difficult as there isn't space for a long enough shock to work with the camber of the rear spring when used in the front. (reference the thread about EFS shock lengths here:
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=57113)
As a light, leaf sprung vehicle, sierras don't need much in the way of shocks. Leaf springs are inherently self damping and a Sierra will pass the "bounce test" with no shocks at all. Whilst you car is heavy, it will also require plenty of leaves to support the weight, and with more leaves there's more internal friction so less need for shock valving. Many US pickups with huge rear load ratings run practically no shock valving.