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viewtopic.php?f=17&t=1108the short of it, get some thing twin core wire and run some from the drivers headlight up to where your relay is, run another bit from your switch to the relay
at the headlights end, join each wire to a vertical pin on the headlight plug, 2 pins, 2 wires

at the switch end same, 1 wire to each terminal on the switch
now the relay
take a single wire from the headlight run and one from the switch run and join them together
the remaining 2 single wires (one from each twin) plug one to 85 and one to 86 shouldnt matter which way but if you have a diode protected relay and it doesnt work swap them
then connect pin 30 to battery positive via a fuse and the lights to 87
simple
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