you need to be IN duplex mode in order to be using a repeater. if not you will be sending/receiving on the same frequency. repeaters get their input from a different channel.
I will try and explain...
So if you are on ch 1-8 and NOT in duplex, you will hear the output from the repeater (people far away like you get now), but when you transmit its only going as far as your own radio can transmit (probs around 5k at best) on the same freq as the output of the repeater. If the people were closer to you it would still work..........
In order to transmit to the repeater so that it can give you max range, you go into duplex mode.
now you are in duplex, when you transmit on 1-8. its ACTUALLY transmiting on 31-38 (you wont see any indication of this happening, just your duplex indicator), these are the INPUT frequencys to the repeater, which will OUTPUT your transmisson on 1-8, in a MUCH higher power. Remember you are listening on 1-8 so you and everyone else will hear you on there.
Does that make sense? duplex - send one freq, listen a different simplex - send/receive same freq.
Now if you understand that, you should also understand that you should NOT use ch 31-38 It will seem to work fine, but you will be actually transmitting to any repeater that uses that particular channel and probably pissing a lot of legitimate users off who will be listening on ch 1-8. Also stay away from the emergency chans (channel 5 and 35) and only use the hwy channels if you know what you are doing, no point pissing off the truck drivers. Oh and there are now data-packet channels too for telemetry etc... best staying away from those too.
this site details each channel for you, Note that 80ch uhf has TWO banks of repeaters you can use. same concept, just different numbers.
http://www.uhfcb.com.au/80-Channel-UHF-Information.phpsame site has a list of repeaters in Australia.
OH one more thing, when you know you are using a repeater, keep in mind there is a short delay for the repeater to "reset" so leave a short delay between transmissions.
If im being confusing let me know